I find that life is a huge balance between joy and depression. I will not say a balance between being positive and negative because I seldom feel negative but I can feel a sense of despair once a month ;) due to hormones. But what I really wanted to talk about today is our weaknesses, the sides of us that is not benefiting us for the highest good. I was a huge people-pleaser when I was younger and had a lot of respect for authority figures. I was very shy speaking to older women, especially if they were my boss. It stems from my childhood and I was so fed up with this trait that I went on a mission to read every book and every article regarding people pleasing I could get my hands on and it changed my life. These books and articles made me very aware how I wanted to change and to become more assertive, living more purposefully, respect my own values and able to set healthy boundaries. I could not go another minute pleasing others and I needed to understand that I had my own set of values and I was worthy to set boundaries! Omg! When I finally figured out how to live life on my own terms I got a free pass from jail and I never looked back. The lesson that stood out the most in my journey was this: I would not have gotten better if I had not done the work and read all of these books and then applied them to my life. We can't do this kind of work alone, we need help to figure this out before we reach an age when it is too late. After figuring my own shit out I wanted to pay this forward and that is how I started my youth groups decades ago. The one thing that I have to continue doing is to be proactive with the younger generation because I never understood the point of after the fact methods and programs. Why wait until they self-destruct? Teach healthy self-esteem and assertiveness to youth today and try not to sit on the sideline watching because we are scared to share how we feel. Giving young people feedback on their self-destructive behaviour or negative attitude is one of the best ways to help them understand their own behaviour. Share your knowledge, give tough love when you see a teenager struggling in life, they are worth your attention! Much love, Annica.
My name is Annica Johansson and I am a Career and Talent Coach. I am writing about personal development, daily musings, spirituality and depicting mother nature's amazing beauty.