I really like original artwork especially when a very talented friend of mine painted it. Here is a painting by my friend Janet who is part of the Heartworkers group. www.heartworkers.ca. I decided to buy this painting as it reminded me of how relationships works, it is a dual dance in motion ways of living. Relationships are all about a dance, intimate dance, the dance of intimacy. An action creates a reaction and if you get hurt by your partner's action how do you react?
Open communication where you can create safety and trust is important and it should be one of the pillars when you pour the relationship concrete. You can't be too demanding on how you want to communicate as that may scare people away but at the same time you want to relay your needs and set some boundaries in the beginning otherwise it will be easy to just go with the flow and then it feels too contrived to start communicate about things you never spoken about before. Relationships are also about give and take, where do you thrive and where do your partner lack skills etc., and be mindful of each other's strengths and weaknesses. I try not to cast judgement so fast as one of my mantras that has saved my face many times is: There is always a reason for a person's behaviour, find out the reason behind that behaviour and you will have a story of pain. I find myself being a good communicator and I have an ability to create safety where people can express themselves openly but I am not frustrated if my partner does not have the same ability. That's just life at times and as time goes by without judging people they will come around, open up and become more transparent. If not, you have to open the door to communication as it will not change until you have a conversation about it. Usually, both sides will appreciate the talk.
My name is Annica Johansson and I am a Career and Talent Coach. I am writing about personal development, daily musings, spirituality and depicting mother nature's amazing beauty.