We all judge, I judge and I have judged fake people lately. Do I feel good by judging others, absolutely not, but the irritation and frustration are off my chest when I talk about things I do not like. And then I stop judging. I don't keep on judging after I have expressed my thoughts. When I judge fake people I know I am trying to be superior from them and pushing them away from me which is not a kind characteristic. I am pointing fingers on other people which I am very aware of. I try not to judge, I don't feel good when I judge and being judgemental is probably one of the attributes in a person I like the least. But I still judge especially when I feel judged, then the judgemental monster is right in front of me and I let it rip into others. Mostly because I feel hurt when people can't be real with me, I am hurt when people talk behind my back, and I feel like I waste time with people who are not straightforward.
And I am disappointed to find out that I have fake people in my friendship circle and that it took me such a long time to figure that out. Then I become very judgemental. I am working on not letting it take over when I am in the moment of judgment, I have to notice it, say hello to it and then let it go before it consumes me. It is a normal thing but I don't want to sit in that energy for long because I know how it looks and feels like when you hang out with people who are very critical.
I can't project that others should have the balls to be upfront with me instead of wasting their time behind my back. They are not ready to move in that direction and that is okay. But the problem with judgement is that it traps me in the problem. As I resist, the problem persists so therefore I forgive and move on.
My name is Annica Johansson and I am a Career and Talent Coach. I am writing about personal development, daily musings, spirituality and depicting mother nature's amazing beauty.