Knowing oneself is power. Knowing what causes a problem and fixing it are two different things. But if I am not able to look at myself, if I avoid any kind of self-analysis or self-awareness, then I will continue to make the same mistakes over and over and never know why. I am not able to change what I do not acknowledge. However, in order for me to know my options and possibilities I have to be in a setting that offers that perspective. In order for change to happen in a therapeutic milieu, a connection of some sort has to happen with the professional/worker. The need for a connection at the early stages of change is crucial since I do not know all my options and I do not know where to start when I am stuck. What I would do if I got stuck is to seek help where I could rely on my counsellor (if that is my choice of help) for guidance. Building trust, having compassion and empathy with another person will help me to open up and see my choices in the cycle of change. A few of the most important elements in establishing relationships are trust, empathy, and to understand where the person is coming from. All of which will improve my self-esteem and as a result, I will have the strength to follow through and feel good about my decisions. As soon as I have made the decision to change I do not have to “waste” my time to “think” about my problems, I have to take ownership of the problems and take action. I need to be brutally honest with myself and be able to admit that I am getting payoffs for destructive behaviour; hence a truthful confrontation is needed. Also, to keep myself on track and working toward my change, I have to maintain my inner self-talk and not fall back into old habits of negative thinking. Destructive thoughts such as feeling unworthy, or unable to devote the time to be successful can be replaced with gratitude. I do not believe change can happen in a vacuum or if you are isolated for long periods without meaningful connections with somebody. Talking to someone, over the phone or face to face, that have the right kind of compassion and empathy, will facilitate growth. Change is constant and I cannot diminish the small changes since they will help me to achieve and fulfill my goals later on in life.
Self-esteem is one of the key ingredients for self-growth to emerge and make my life more satisfying. Feeling comfortable with oneself and living in the truth can only build self-esteem. I believe self-esteem is the only way to live life to its fullest where I have to embrace the good and bad parts of self. Acceptance and congruency come to mind as well as becoming honest with my feelings. When I feel at peace and have a balanced life I have a better opportunity to be emotionally open. However, on a bad day, I will be wasting my time on unimportant things that may include jealousy, envy or filling myself up with external activities (food, shopping, drinking). As soon as I compare myself to others my self-worth will decrease because I would only compare myself to people that are 'better' than me. And, if I use my time to put down other people, I am constantly lowering my self-esteem, which will translate into negative and wasted energy. Consequently, I can be trapped in a vicious circle of anxiety and insecurities, which will only lead to bad connections with people around me.
Here is a better sounding video of the twin hearts meditation. Worth doing: https://vimeo.com/112737789
I fell in love with the word chakra years ago, I love the word and soon I feel in love what chakras represents and how balanced chakras can bring inner peace. I practised balancing and opening the chakras but it took time to master this. It isn't something you can do on a whim and I needed to have practical tips so I joined programs and different workshops on how to clear and open chakras several years ago. I also took in-depth training in Pranic Healing which was an amazing tool to clear negativity and infuse healing. Today I clear, align, balance chakras and tune up peoples' energy fields and as I have mentioned before, I get just as much healing out of this as my client-it's a beautiful thing.
I want to know what you are constantly thinking about, where does your energy go during the day and are you lost in unnecessary worries? I remember when I was in a really crappy relationship with a guy that was bad news, who was constantly on my mind and I was worried all the time. I lost myself and I lost valuable time that I could have put towards something that would benefit my well-being and not the opposite. I knew he wasn't good for me but for some reason, I could not fully let him go and as a result, I was thinking about what he was doing all day. I lost precious time thinking about where he was, what he was doing and if he was cheating on me. OMG!! Exhausting! Since then I decided to put 'player' guys on the shelf and never look back, I have chosen 'nice' guys that have same morals and values as I do and this has been the best decision I have ever made in my life. Players have no room in my life and I will never spend my days thinking about what my man is doing again. I have more important things to do and if that whispering voice shows up again I will make sure that I will communicate my boundaries clearly. Your intuition knows what is going on in your life and make sure you don't waste precious time on things that will never change or work out.
If you are constantly thinking about something negative or something that is draining your energy then it is time to change your 'inner' chatter. There is nothing more time stealing than thinking the same thoughts over and over and over again. Talk to your friends when you are struggling, ask for advice and help, go to couples counselling, communicate with your partner, read books to change your story because sitting on your couch day in and day out will not change anything. Create affirmations, listen to podcasts that are action driven, read books, make art, launch like a rocket and start showing up for yourself.
Beets, sweet potatoes and yam roasted in the oven are so good!! Bought a huge bag of beets the other day so I put a huge bunch of them in the oven to roast. Then I had them for lunch... a lot, to a point where I was wondering how my body would respond to it. And my body responded alright, red beets coming out of my body like there was no tomorrow lol. And then my body decided to continue doing that for a week so I felt very 'clean' inside. I have a tendency to be constipated and this made me feel 'cleansed'. I haven't eaten beets since that day but tried it out with some lovely turkey meatballs for dinner. Oh so yummy and healthy.
I precious my alone time immensely, so I can hear the messages from my soul. I read, read and read some more with no background noise. Just me and the words on the page and the connection to my soul. Very healing.
I have held my breath a lot lately or is it more that I am focusing on my breath more? Either way, I take big, deep breaths which helps me refocus and re-align my thoughts. Observing my breath will give clues on how my inner 'world' is doing and if I am holding my breath there may be a reason for that.
"If you’re always listening to the noise of the world it’s impossible to hear the whispers of your soul." M. F.
I will be totally honest here. I am not a fan of make-up...at all. I remember when I was busy modelling and had to sit in the make-up chair and be all made up, and I did not like it. I did not like the caked on feeling from the foundation and powder on my face however the make-up artists made me very beautiful. My skin has had ups and downs but I have never used foundation on my days off or even now I am not using foundation. But...... my skin is starting to look less, let's say...less sparkly lol. So I have started using loose powder to even out my skin colour and I love it!
We have been so lucky with the weather here. November turned out to be very sunny and it will stick for a couple of more days :D. I love living here where the ocean and mountains meet each other. Going to the Christmas market today and will soon dig out my boxes with Christmas stuff. So yes, I will totally start to decorate soon and it will be early. I already have my balls up in the window and soon there will be some more sparkles and lights. The lights and candles are really what I am looking forward to use during the darker evenings. It is something very magical being surrounded with it and it invokes a good feeling for the future for some reason. It's easy to set future intentions and even creating a mood board when you are sitting in a 'magical' space. Decorate your space in your liking, light some candles, bring out your crystals, put some glitter on it and write down your goals and see yourself accomplish them, step right into your dreams and see your future self! Put a prayer on it :P !
It feels good to love somebody. When my English bulldog was alive I looked him in the eyes and he looked back (only because he wanted a treat ;) and I told him how much I loved him everyday. It felt so good to express unconditional love.."Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead."
My name is Annica Johansson and I am a Career and Talent Coach. I am writing about personal development, daily musings, spirituality and depicting mother nature's amazing beauty.