In the late nineties, I was a well-developed people pleaser with no self-esteem. I could not stand my meekness so I read everything I could get my hands around people pleasing and self-esteem. The six pillars of self-esteem turned my life around and I re-typed the book on a PC to really understand how I could live a more limitless life.
“Apart from disturbance whose roots are biological, I cannot think of a single psychological problem—from anxiety and depression, to underachievement at school or at work, to fear of intimacy, happiness, or success, to alcohol or drug abuse, to spouse battering or child molestation, to co-dependency and sexual disorders, to passivity and chronic aimlessness, to suicide and crimes of violence—that is not traceable, at least in part, to the problem of deficient self-esteem. Of all the judgments we pass in life, none is as important as the one we pass on ourselves.”
~ Nathaniel Branden from The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem
Are you secure in your own skin? Does your body feel like home? Do you listen to your body's intuition? Can you handle any hardships that the world is presenting to you? Then you have mastered to live comfortably in your own skin and you are able to handle the struggles around you without freaking out. Home will always be with you — it is where the heart is. Find your tribe and vibe the shit out of what is called life, because life can be hard. Pay it forward and don't forget to love it forward to others. Helping others is really the only way to find what you are looking for.
When I live in uncertainty I sometimes feel the most alive. Crazy eh? But not really, because eagerness to take on the unknown fuels creativity. Ambiguity can be good for you. Just look at how Google treat their workers: 20% of employees' time is invested in new ideas and projects at Google. It nurtures creativity and day to day work and taking risks lead to innovation which shows that the status quo is not important. But always living in uncertainty is not sustainable so be wise and use your common sense.
Seeking approval from others limits us in so many ways. When we put the breaks on the potential of being fully authentic we will suffer.
“Don’t seek approval. This may be the toughest suggestion for you to follow — and the most important. Whether you’re a teenager seeking approval from your peers, a middle-aged parent seeking the approval of your kids, or a man or woman seeking the approval of a partner, it all amounts to the same thing. You’re giving your personal power away every time you seek validation from someone else for who you are.” – TRISH MACGREGOR
“Eventually you just have to realize that you’re living for an audience of one. I’m not here for anyone else’s approval.” – PAMELA ANDERSON
“The people who receive the most approval in life are the ones who care the least about it–so technically, if you want the approval of others, you need to stop caring about it.”- WAYNE W. DYER,
Did you know that you can be happy for no reason right now? Try it. Living in today's society it seems like we always need a tangible reason to be happy, that we lost the idea to be happy for no reason. When you really think about it, it can be that simple...just to be happy right now (I know it sounds like a cliche but give it a try). So many people are negative and default back to suffering when they are alone. We are so attached to the same old ways of being and living that we forget we have options. Why do we always need something to be happy about, why can't we make a decision or give ourselves permission to be happy right now! Being present, staying in the present moment will help you to be happy and that is why so many people focus on the gifts they currently have in their lives.
"Direct your attention inward. Have a look inside yourself. What kind of thoughts is your mind producing? What do you feel? Direct your attention into the body. Is there any tension? Once you detect that there is a low level of unease, the background static, see in what way you are avoiding, resisting, or denying life —by denying the Now".~ Echart Tolle~
Letting go of the past and the things I can't control has given me so much freedom. Freedom to create, read, teach, coach, facilitate change in others. Worrying is such a time stealer. Figure out a way to stay present and drop anything, like a hot potatoe, the things you have no control over. The Sedona method taught me exactly how to let go of thoughts that does not serve my highest good and I use this technique to help others in my programs and coaching. We are all striving for a peace of mind.
I will add a yoga-practicing space and an altar in my office. My office is currently very dull and needs some sprucing up. Ha!. I will use the altar as a way to recharge with positivity and to be inspired living a more spiritual life. And it will be the perfect spot to practice yoga as I need way more stretching in my life. I have a special space in my bedroom where I have crystals and other calming and peaceful objects, all of which helps me stay centered and grounded.
An altar is usually a safe space that is inspiring and nourishing to your soul where you can ponder on things and be introspected. While you are a building a relationship with your space you will charge it with positive and healing energy! I have not built an intentional relationship with my space in my bedroom but I think it is charged with my energy where my items build and contain that energy and reflects it back to me when I am in my bedroom. This way, the altar is a constant reflection of my intentions and love. Listen to your heart and your intuition when you create your own special space and get inspired by the objects you are using. You can use photos, candles, statues, crystals, art work, incense, angel cards, words of wisdom. Keep it clean and simple :).
Hello! Got up early to make some art with my friend Kerstin. Trying to find out what media will work the best for our idea. Being creative is an important ingredient in my life to keep myself satisfied and it grounds my restless soul lol. And then, of course, it started to snow :(, we don't get much snow here but it seems winter came for a visit and decided to stay. So this is on the agenda for today:
And while I am reading I will us my green tool for my carpal tunnel issue. When I feel the pain in the middle of my hand, this green rubber thing is helping building strength in my hand. Got if from Sports Check and each time I sense the pulsating pain I use this and it gets better immediately.
I have not used my slow cooker much at all even though I have had it for 15 years lol. I mainly use it to make mulled wine at Christmas but it is getting used for making ginger water lately. I cut up a lot of ginger and set the cooker on high and then on low for a couple of hours and it is divine. I use the ginger in my cafe au lait's so I put the ginger in the milk and heat it up before putting it in my coffee. A new favourite!
The lake is a little bit frozen but no snow today and the sun just showed up. We have a rowing club on the lake and they were practicing 3 days ago but I don't think they will be out rowing for a while. Time to head out to enjoy the sun!
So here is the deal....lol...got that from Million Dollar Listing Los Angeles, one of the realtors are always using this line. But on a serious note, I am in total hermit mode when I am not working. I love my job and I love to work but after work, I am kind of a bore sometimes. I do stuff...but I really want to stay in my house and read and reflect on things but this is not sustainable long-term as I am a very social introvert (as I am getting older). So hear me out (another one from MDLLA) I have to find something that sparks my passion on my spare time. I have been painting, writing, reading, facilitate career planning groups, held mastermind groups etc. but I feel like I have to focus on myself and what coils my soul...what? what coils my soul..where did this come from. Okay, I am just gonna write here as I think I am having some help from a cheeky guy who wants to make his presence and he wants to be heard. He may have had enough of this hermit mode!! While hermiting I have been thinking about how to get out of this mode and I think I have found a solution! ...to be continued.
My name is Annica Johansson and I am a Career and Talent Coach. I am writing about personal development, daily musings, spirituality and depicting mother nature's amazing beauty.