It’s a fairly common feeling to feel isolated and alone, as though you were somehow cut off from society. But that’s not true. We are all part of a larger community and society.
According to Adlerian psychology, community is of central importance to humans. For Adler, community doesn’t just include those we spend most of our time with or people who live on the same block.
Adler talks about what he calls a global community. This includes everything and everyone: any plant, mineral or animal across the entire universe. The idea is that humans should be able to find fulfillment by developing themselves as part of this massive community. As soon as we realize how we might fit into this grand scheme, we’ll start to act differently. We’ll begin to pay more attention to things around us and begin to care a little bit more.
Change occurs partly because we realize we’re not actually the center of the universe around which all else revolves. Phew, what a relief right?
Of course, it’s quite normal for people to see themselves as the main protagonist in their own lives. The problems starts when we draw the false conclusion that we’re even bigger than that.
If we do start thinking that we’re the grand high admiral of the cosmic expanse then inevitably we’ll interact with people only thinking in terms of what they can give or do for us. There’s no reciprocity.
Attitudes like that will only lead to frustration, as nobody is actually that important; and most people do not care about others that much, they are busy thinking about themselves and how they are perceived by others!!.
We have to flip it around, don’t think in terms of what the world can give to you. Expectations like that will get you nowhere, instead think about what you can give to the world! Volunteering is a good starting point and a shortcut to feel better.
My name is Annica Johansson and I am a Career and Talent Coach. I am writing about personal development, daily musings, spirituality and depicting mother nature's amazing beauty.